New Release: What to Say When She Always Feels Condemned

It’s release week for a project I’ve been working on! I’m grateful for the opportunity to contribute to a series from P&R Publishing. You can find my booklet, What to Say When She Always Feels Condemned, at Amazon or prpbooks.com.

Many Christians struggling with condemning thoughts don’t have the words or categories to conceptualize their suffering. Many friends seeking to help are at a loss for how to offer lasting encouragement. My prayer is that this booklet helps begin the process of understanding scrupulosity and knowing how to minister the love of Jesus to strugglers.

About the Booklet

What do you do when your friend’s concerns about her sin become obsessive and unrelenting?

Christians who always feel condemned need more than a theology lesson. If your friend seems to have an unusually tender conscience, constant anxiety about her relationship with God, or a tendency to spiral over her guilt, she may be affected by false teaching or struggling with scrupulosity, a form of OCD. Learn how to ask the questions that will get to the heart of her struggle, then provide true help and lasting comfort.

The Heart Talks series helps women respond to the concerns and struggles that arise in conversations with other women at church, in small groups, and elsewhere. In just a few pages, each booklet helps the reader understand the topic, ask the right questions, and provide wise, gracious, and gospel-centered guidance.

Endorsements

“Christians who persistently struggle with thoughts and feelings of self-condemnation, fear, and doubt in relation to God need patient and wise friends to come alongside them with gospel hope and help. Aubrynn Whitted is just such a friend. Informed by Scripture and seasoned by her own experience, she avoids simplistic explanations or solutions and equips readers to be the hands and feet of Jesus to these suffering saints.”
—Michael R. Emlet, Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, Faculty Member; Author, Descriptions and Prescriptions

“This is a compassionate and thorough resource for anyone seeking to understand a loved one who lives with constant thoughts of condemnation or scrupulosity, the spiritual expression of OCD. Drawing courageously from her own lived experience, Aubrynn invites readers to understand the minds, hearts, and bodies of those who suffer, offering practical and gentle guidance along the way. This small but powerful booklet reminds us of the importance of representing Christ with wisdom and compassion to those who suffer, and also equips us with tangible tools to respond faithfully and well.”
—Heather Evans, Founder, Evans Counseling Services

“Self-condemnation and scrupulosity are painful burdens carried by many Christian women. Now we have a wise, accessible, and clear description of the struggle, as well as guidance for the practical care that we can offer. Buy this booklet and pray that God will guide you to someone who needs your compassionate presence!”
—Ellen Mary Dykas, Director, Equipping for Ministry to Women, Harvest USA; Author, Toxic Relationships: Taking Refuge in Christ

“This is a wise and winsome resource that addresses a struggle that can be so difficult for both strugglers and helpers to navigate. Aubrynn has filled this small booklet with helpful descriptions and practical action steps, even winsomely guiding us through common misconceptions and missteps. If you struggle with a constant sense of condemnation or know someone who does, I wholeheartedly commend this resource—Aubrynn’s hard-earned wisdom will deepen your understanding, compassion, skillfulness, and hope.”
—Esther Liu, Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation, Faculty and Counselor; Author, Shame: Being Known and Loved